I reckon that people all over the world are craving happiness and we often hear the words "yaar - pata nahin kyon but main khush nahin hoon, kuch mazaa nahin aa raha life mein." I really don't understand what happiness are they talking about. Do we even understand what happiness is?
As in my previous post the problem with happiness is that there are no clear parameters to it. Our benchmarks of happiness keep changing with circumstances.
In this scenario I think its important to begin by understanding what really makes us happy and what does happiness mean to us? Is it being together with family? Is it reaching the top position in an organisation or is it giving joy to others? Whats that one thing that will make us happy.
Once we have understod that one factor, we should be focused on achieveing just that. We have to properly plan and be relentless in our approach once we are set on something. Write it down in front of you, break it into various milestones but work towards it.
I firmly believe that to achieve great happiness you have to under go great hard work and sadness too.
Please don't change the yardstick once you have achieved something. At the end of the day I beleive its not happiness but contentment that matters.
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In this post I have tried to debate this lack of happiness syndrome and debate how we can go ahead pursuing happiness. Your comments will be enlightening. Please let me know how you would measure happiness and your approach to happiness.
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The pursuit of happy-ness :). Love this movie... and yes I do agree with you we need to celebrate once we have achieved a milestone instead of just extending the yardstick...
ReplyDeletegood thought paaji..but milestone according to me is the only problem... there is no perfect formula for happiness... all of us want everything and we want it now thts all the trouble... 10 years ago all of us had our milestones we all worked towards them.. most of us achieved them but we now crave for whatever we have lost along the way...look around you .. people with dream careers are craving for better family life; those with great families are craving better careers; those with arranged marriages secretly pine for their lost loves; those with love marriages are hoping for complete acceptance from their families someday; kadka party are looking for more money; wealthy ones are looking for peace of mind .. there is no perfect balance in anything ... career or family, success or ethics, love or parental consent, being a sacrificial lamb or a selfish bitch or bastard... no one goal works for anyone...i dont have answers as well .. just the hope that we all can learn to be happy and content with ourselves ... only then can we be happy with our life or people in our life... heart of hearts we ourselves are our biggest critics... and unless the critic is satisfied.. there is no happiness niether contentment...
ReplyDeleteits good to read views of people following anand-ism so passionately and participating actively in exchanging thoughts.
ReplyDeleteThe pursuit of happiness is so individualistic just like thumb impression. So what makes happy someone may be not be for others. But I think happiness cannot be defined its pure form of human emotions.But now its becoming a desire and the reason may lie in our thought style. And that devil is EXPECTATION ! we all expect something from somewhere, someone and in that race we probably miss the happiness that we all are born with. We all know its good to write here than in real life but at least we can try to spread this feeling steadly. Have i started expecting..not again....!!! Anand-ism may have some soul searching answers.....